It's a sad thing because no one wins. Hana is still dead, Immanuel is still in therapy to deal with his issues. The birth children will never again live with their parents. I've heard they are all living with relatives. (Hopefully ones who will help them through this).
It's also sad that to the end Carri insisted that Hana killed herself by refusing to come inside out of the cold. She said they couldn't get her inside. That is bologna. She weighed 78 pounds at the time of death, and they could have went out and carried her in. She may have been oppositional by then, sure. Who knows what hypothermia will do.
No child should be left outside in a cold rain for 9 hours. No child should be sent outside in cold rain for punishment at all. No child should have food with held for two days. Withholding food isn't an appropriate punishment for anyone. What good does any of that do? Children need the security of knowing there will be food for them at each meal.
But even with all this, I don't think Carri is a total monster like a lot of people are making her out to be. There's a blog page dedicated to Hana that's filled with messages that basically say she's a monster and worse. I don't think she adopted two children with the intent of abusing them and killing one. Foreign adoptions are very expensive, so she must have felt led to adopt. The problem is that she wasn't prepared for the issues that come with adoption, foreign adoption and older child adoption. I wasn't either and I made a lot of mistakes when trying to squash the issues. She did too. But she got carried away and became vindictive. And with the total isolation the children faced, no one knew. No one intervened.
Unfortunately it got to the point where Carri no longer cared about Hana's welfare. She saw her fall to the ground repeatedly that night. She saw her bang her head on the cement. Yet she did nothing. It was midnight when Hana finally died. That means most of the time she was out there was spent in the dark. There was total disregard for Hana's life (which is why it is homicide by abuse).
Still, hate is wrong. I know people are going to push for adoption reforms based on this case. I hope that doesn't backfire and soon no one can adopt without being scrutinized and hounded once the children come home. I do think it would be helpful to have more resources available for parents though. And help for parents who are struggling with their children's issues. But it's not an agency's fault when an adoption goes bad unless they lied about the problems the children had. And everyone says things were going really well with Hana her first year home. An agency would probably see that and no longer follow up.
When we adopted Jeff and later the twins, there was no agency involved. We did all the paperwork and submitted it. With Jeff, when things started getting difficult, there were no counselors within hours of us trained in adoption issues. There were no support groups. Facebook didn't exists and all the online support groups didn't exist. We ended up sending him to a home for troubled youth. I would have rather had someone who could have worked with our family in keeping him here while keeping the girls safe and Jeff himself safe. But there wasn't. There are still very few resources here.
I'm glad the trial is over and justice is done. Most of us will soon forget, but for the William's family, it is far from over. The parents will go to prison. They are being held on 1.5 million and 750,000 bail. Sentencing isn't until October. (Is it usually that far off?) The children will forever have the images of Hana in their mind. They will forever remember this. Their parents won't be at their graduations or weddings. They won't be there when their children are born.
If you are struggling in your parenting, talk to someone. Yes, it is hard to find someone who understands the manipulations, deceit, stealing and lying since they may only see your child when he's being charming. They may not see through the charm. They may think the problem is you. Keep looking. Join an online support group. Ask around because they exist. Connect with other adoptive parents online at least so you have someone to vent to. Someone who will help keep you sane. If you can't find someone to talk to, leave a message here because many of my readers have gone through these things. Many still are. Don't isolate yourself, and if you are homeschooling but they need more than you can give, send them to public school at least for a year so they can get evaluated and get services. It will give you a break too.
All kids deserve to be loved. Even when they are not acting lovable.